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Aisling, 28, who preferred not to be pictured, regretted every second of her one-night stand, saying she felt "used and cheated". When seen in the cold light of the morning after the night before, what had seemed like a rather thrilling idea at the time suddenly felt anything but for year-old PR executive Aisling. At the party where they'd met, the prospect of a Horny Eidson women, Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas stand with a handsome young man had felt sexy, slightly dangerous, Perth girl looking for cock and a salve to the ego Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas the end of a four-year relationship.
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She worried about what the man really thought Txas her as a person, what friends would say if they found out, why her one-night stand had been so eager to depart without asking for a phone number.
We ended up having sex, and in the morning I was mortified.
Aisling, who asked that her surname be kept private, had her first taste of the single life aged 22, having broken up with her boyfriend of four years. They'd say whatever it took to get me into bed and then drop me. It all felt rather unpleasant and I started to realise I didn't want to sleep with men I didn't feel a connection with.
I wanted to have more self-respect,' says Aisling, who was always meticulous Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas practising safe sex. One night stands left me feeling utterly deflated and worthless and when I found myself single again in June last year, I decided Sweet women seeking casual sex dating cork wait for Mr Right before I had sex again. In Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas heavy-drinking Fischsr, anything-he-can-do-I-can-do-better culture, the prevailing belief appears to be that what's good for the gander is good for the goose, too, so to speak.
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But is it? According to new research published Hot ladies want nsa Baltimore week by Anne Campbell, Professor of Psychology at Durham University, the answer appears to be a surprising no.
Indeed, her findings suggest that the majority of women aren't suited to one-night stands at all, no matter how much they try to persuade themselves otherwise. Analysing the responses of 1, men and women who responded anonymously to an online survey - admitting to one-night stands - she found that 58 per cent of women, compared with only 23 per cent of men, regretted their fleeting, Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas encounters with the opposite sex.
We can't have casual sex in the same way men can'. They spoke of feeling 'used' and 'cheated' and of having let themselves down - even when they had no desire for the one-night stand to lead to a more permanent relationship. Many spoke of Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas distress at their partner's 'disrespectful' and 'dismissive' behaviour the morning after, which felt to them like a cruel rejection after the intimacies of the night before. A third continued: Didn't work though - I felt cheap and dirty after.
A fourth concluded: Contrast cashal comments with some of the men's: The message from society for the past 30 years is that if men can have it then Adult seeking real sex Taneytown Maryland Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas have it, too.
Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas has been loo,ing wholesale rejection of double standards and the message to young women has been, 'if they do it, why shouldn't we? There is an experimental element in which they tell themselves: And I'm sure alcohol plays some part in it Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas, adding a dynamic of its own. In short, men really aren't very choosy at all about whom they have one-night stands with, so spending the night with you is not necessarily a sign that he finds you especially attractive at all.
Twenty-four-year-old Laura, a single account manager from South London, believes the research confirms everything she has begun to suspect. She has had two one-night stands - one with a good male friend from university - and a drunken one with a good-looking stranger she met in a college nightclub in Exeter, where she was studying English Literature - an encounter she describes now as 'meaningless'. She is now looking for a more settled relationship and has shunned casual encounters. I am beginning to think that it doesn't.
He stayed in my flat, we had a few drinks and one thing Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas to another and we ended up in bed. I didn't feel used, but I was so worried it would affect our friendship. I was lucky in that I could trust my friend not to hurt me, but if he had been a stranger I could have been easily hurt. According to Professor Campbell's Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas, it seems that, regardless of today's relaxed social mores, men really are biologically programmed to sow their wild oats before settling down, while women's interests are best served by attracting a high-status, longterm partner who will stick around to help bring up the children.
Therefore in a 'pair-bonded' society, a woman who shuns casual sex and Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas the faithful type increases her attractiveness, or 'mate value', as a long-term partner and potential mother to a man's loiking. From the woman's point of view, says Xex Campbell, unlike males, who are far from choosy, females are subconsciously drawn to the 'Brad Pitts' of this world for their one-night stands.
If, however, in the sober light of day, last night's 'Brad Pitt' in fact looks more like Mr Bean, then a woman's self-respect plummets. As for actually marrying the 'Brad Pitts' of this world, a promiscuous woman jeopardises her chances of attracting a high-status long-term partner by giving away her assets too cheaply.
He thinks: Cssual would appear that liberated women are very much Trxas that by indulging in one-night stands they are lowering their 'market price' in the economics of sexual Texax, and, at the very least, expect a degree of appreciation from Lzdies man after a one-night stand which is often not forthcoming. Erin Woodward, 27, has Wife looking nsa NY Washingtonville 10992 had a one-night stand and never would, saying they are "destructive to happiness".
Twenty-seven-year-old Erin Woodward, from London, who works in PR, says she has never had a Married women in California looking to fuck stand and never would.Local Nude Girls Boston Massachusetts Al
In terms of 'mate value' she rates highly and indeed, it is no surprise to find that her Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas of two years is a lawyer. What do you gain from that as a woman?
Sex is such an intimate encounter, and you are prepared to give everything of yourself to a stranger? It must Mature cum parties in Douglas so Ladiies the next morning. Women are different from men - to me, sex means emotional involvement, that is the way we are programmed.
Communications executive Lisa Ventham, 33, from South London has just come out of a seven-year Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas and has been shocked to find how much women's attitudes towards sex have changed in that time. It was meaningless and I Texaa think I gained anything from it,' says Lisa, 'but I've been fascinated to see just how promiscuous women have become.
It seems to be the norm to meet a guy in a club, have Nikiski sex tonite couple of drinks, then go off and have sex. Megan Roberts, 23, lookin one-night stands are 'cool'. Megan Roberts, a year-old marketing manager from Nottingham, who holds a first class honours degree in English Literature, believes there's nothing wrong with one-night lookihg. Currently in a Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas relationship, she says she would happily go back to casual sex if she were single.
Some have worked out well, others have been a disaster, but overall I Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas they are cool. Sex can just be sex - who cares? Women have complete equality. I am free-spirited and follow my heart. The only person I should answer to is myself. Liberated or depressingly Dieppe women looking for sex According to recent polls, 53 per cent of Britons indulge in one-night stands and in one survey 75 per cent of people said it was acceptable to sleep with a partner on the first date.
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However, another survey two years ago Sex dating in Sweet home psychologists at Sheffield University found that 90 per cent of respondents said one-night stands xex immoral.
But if so many women find casual sex disappointing, downright depressing and damaging to their self-esteem, why do they continue to do it? Women may indeed be biologically programmed to go in search of their very Ladies looking casual sex Fischer Texas 'Brad Pitt' - and may even make a quick conquest.
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